How to move without arguing with your parents

Moving is the only way to get your things from where they currently are to where they need to be. It's also the easiest possible way to get into a blazing row with your parents, if you should ever feel like it. You don't pack the way they want you to pack, you take too long putting it in the car, and then you spend several tense hours in a cramped car with several boxes jabbing your mum uncomfortably in the back of her chair. No wonder arguments are bound to happen on moving day.

Here are some ways to stop those arguments before they begin.

1 - Cut them out entirely

Pretty obvious, but it's much easier to avoid arguing with parents on moving day if they aren't physically anywhere near you. To completely avoid arguing with your parents on moving day, send your possessions with someone who was going that way anyway.

Services like Nimber are a great way you can cut your parents out of moving entirely. Like a cross between Uber and Tinder, Nimber hooks you up with someone who's going your way and won't mind taking your things with them for a small fee (which you set yourself).

Nimber is a collaborative peer-to-peer service that connects people who need to send something from one place to another with people going that way anyway. Someone nearby could be taking their own kids to the same university as you, or just visiting their own kids and happen to have a van (as in this case) and would gladly take your possessions with them to your new house or halls. Nimber will help you find these wonderful people.

Trust us, it's much easier to say goodbye to your parents at their own front door, rather than after an incredibly tense car ride spent trying to justify why you brought every single CD you've ever owned, despite not having room for a CD player.

2 - Remember you're on your way to uni to have the time of your life. They're "losing their baby".

Whilst you're out at uni, they're going to spend the next few weeks posting stuff like this to social media and tagging you:

Just don't accept the tag or try to blame them. Your parents don't quite get what Facebook is for, bless them.

They're going to be sensitive. Try to keep your glee down to a minimum and occasionally mention you'll miss them, or at least say "I'm looking forward to moving in" rather than "thank Christ I'm moving out".

3 - Only pack what you actually need

Are you actually going to play that guitar? I mean really actually play it?? Or are you going to pick it up and play three chords every other term, realise it's out of tune and put it back in the wardrobe with that lacross stick you don't know how to use?

Unless your guitar is actively part of your wooing technique or you're the next Jimi Hendricks, you might want to consider leaving it at home. Literally (yes, literally) everyone else at uni has brought one to uni, you can always ask to borrow theirs.

Less stuff means less packing, more space in the car and less outwardly irritated parents.

4 - Don't ask for their help unpacking

After a long drive and lugging all your stuff up four flights of stairs, your parents deserve a break.

Even if they offer to help you unpack, don't let them. "I'll unpack this box shall I?" can soon lead to "why the hell have you brought this? I KNEW there was a reason why those boxes were heavy. Brilliant. You get your precious rock collection and I get a hernia".

You can spend the next term unpacking slowly if you must, but do it by yourself to avoid arguments with the 'rents.

5 - Do NOT ask them to collect the things you've forgotten

If the worst has happened and you've forgotten your hair straighteners and/or favourite teddy bear (the one with the clearly chewed ears from when you were a child and that one time last year) bringing this up could cause a major argument on the spot. We're talking nuclear Dad.

Don't mention it, unless you want a long discussion about how terrible your packing skills are and a furious trip home for a second or third attempt at packing.

If you've left something behind, use Nimber to get your forgotten belongings. Simply list where you are, where your belongings are and how much you'd pay for these things to be in the same place. They'll be on their way to you in no time.

6 - Plan where to park

Classic issue. You arrive and have to park three streets away in an illegal zone, leading to much panting and arguments with traffic wardens.

Plan ahead. Check on Google Maps that there are good places to park near your new place. If you're moving into halls arrive early or in your allotted time, to make sure you aren't in the rush (when there will be no spaces whatsoever).

7 - Their choice of music in the car

No Bieber. Not if you're a true Belieber, or even if you just Beliebe it'll be funny to see your parents' faces. Let them choose the music in the car / van, even if that means (oh sweet Jesus, no) listening to an entire Sting album.

8 - Don't put any surprises in the boot

Make sure you've cleared everything you're taking with your parents. If you have a favourite towel, only take it if it's yours. If it belongs to your parents, make sure it's ok to take it with you, rather than announcing it to them when they find it secretly stashed away in the boot.


This article was sponsored by Nimber, the collaborative peer-to-peer service that connects people who need to send something from one place to another with people going that way anyway.

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